Hi!!  I am Ray Singletary.

My passion in life is supporting people with reaching the highest level of personal power!  Throughout my life and career in education, I have noticed so many communities filled with wonderful people with so much potential unrealized.  I hear people doubting themselves and quitting on themselves and it breaks my heart.

Why did I decide to start this blog?

I have a burning desire to identify actions that support everyone’s journey towards realizing their fullest potential!

So, I want to share a bit of my story, which continues to be a driving force in my personal growth and development for health, career, and relationships.

It all started for me about 5 years ago.  I thought I was happy.  I had a good career in education, my wife and I had a good relationship, steady income and able to travel, so things were good.  (See photo to below)

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However, I felt there was something missing.   I wanted more for both of us.

Why??

If you look at the picture above, you may notice that we look happy, but I would say inside I was struggling.  We just moved to a new city and I thought there was many opportunities to pursue my dream career.  That is not how things went.

At work, I wanted to move from teacher to school leader and I was constantly getting passed over for job opportunities.  I was hitting some roadblocks.  I was told that I wasn’t ready for the next level and I believed it!  Despite working hard night after night, I felt like my thoughts and passion was there, but my dedication was not getting me any further.  I would share my ideas with colleagues, however I felt like my suggestions were ignored.  I went on job interviews and was denied over and over again.  I started to think there was something wrong with me.  And after my position was cut, I felt like I would never get to my dream and I was on the verge of giving up.

At the same time, I felt my relationships with family and friends was not where I wanted them to be.  I felt like I was doing a lot of giving and not getting anything in return.  I felt isolated and I started to hide.  I felt myself being more and more upset at the world.  I felt I wasn’t being treated fairly and I started blaming the people around me.  I had a sense that no one could help me!  I was caught in a cycle of negativity.

What I didn’t realize is that I wasn’t aware of my own strengths!  I was constantly comparing myself to others.  I had many doubts about my abilities.  I had a fear of taking any risks.  I was always trying to be perfect!!  All these fixed mindset ideas, which kept me from growing and learning.  Each of these ideas brought so much pain to me because my actions and thoughts were holding me back and I didn’t even know it!!

Lucky for me I have a loving and supportive wife.  She continues to push me and believe in me!  So, I decided I could not give up!! I made too may promises to her, myself, and community I wanted to serve everyday.

So, I started searching for some answers.  I wanted to know how I could get better in all areas of my life.  I wanted to learn some different tactics for things in my life that challenged me.

I looked for anything on personal growth, high performance, mindset, communication, relationships, goal setting, and more.  I found articles, videos, podcasts, workshops, and read anything I thought might support my journey towards getting better.

I noticed some patterns in thinking and after 5 years of research I can honestly say that I have changed the trajectory of my life (picture below).

 

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Now, I feel happier than ever!  I continue to make leaps in my career by recently earning a district level supervisor position for Loudoun County Public Schools in Ashburn, VA!!!

My relationships are healthier, my work-life balance is better, and I feel more confidence in my abilities as a leader.

Finally, I know I am moving towards living the life that was meant for my gift!!

Why do I say all of this?

Because I believe that if I can do it then YOU can too, and  I want to be by YOUR side every step of the way.  My wife was my support system and I want to be that support system for YOU.

I am realizing many people are struggling with the same things that I continue to struggle with, however I have some tools and strategies that I know will be useful to YOU!

I believe that knowledge is not worth anything unless you share it with others!!!

So, as I continue my own journey, I want to share the lessons, tools, and strategies!  My goal is to support anyone that wants to live the life he/she deserves!!!!

My pages focus on some small changes that you can make that will create exponential results in your overall happiness.  I assure you if you do the work, you will see the results!

My strategies are ones that you can apply to all aspects of your life (health, business, relationships, and more).

So, I am humbled to share my story with you and I look forward to hearing your personal story!  I know there are many people out there that can support you in this work, however I would be honored for the opportunity to listen, learn, and match the tools and strategies that will be best for you to live your fullest life.  Thanks for reading my story!

Thanks to my wife, Michele, for being my rock and support!  I LOVE YOU